Hijab for Me

Halo para readers setiaku, kali ini aku akan mengulas tentang kenapa kita sebagai perempuan muslim yang sudah baliq harus menutup aurat. Jadi ini sebenarnya alasan kuat yang membuat aku memutuskan untuk berhijab. So enjoy your time and reading carefully.

“Kenapa sekarang aku berhijab?”

It’s so simple. Karena aku perempuan, sudah mengalami menstruasi, dan aku seorang muslim.

“Kalo gitu kenapa baru tahun ini?”

Karena aku baru sadar. Aku justru tidak pernah berpikir untuk menggunakan hijab sebelumnya karena aku adalah orang yang amat sangat mudah sekali berkeringat, dan itu sebabnya berhijab pasti akan sangat 'gerah' bagi aku. Tapi aku bersyukur karena Allah mengelilingi aku dengan teman-teman yang taat di masa sekolah, tepatnya saat SMK, mereka yang membawa dampak positif untuk aku, dan membuatku mulai berpikir dewasa, jadi jika bukan karena mereka mungkin aku masih membuka auratku di luar sana untuk siapa saja. Maka dari itu sekali lagi aku merasa sangat berterima kasih meskipun aku berharap aku bisa bertemu mereka lebih awal dari yang ditakdirkan.

Tapi jika kalian termasuk para muslimah yang sudah baliq tapi belum berhijab dan tidak dikelilingi dengan orang-orang yang taat sepertiku, bukan berarti kalian harus menutup mata dan memilih untuk tidak peduli dan mengabaikan ajaran agama untuk menggunakan hijab. Karena agama kalian tidaklah rugi jika kalian tidak menggunakannya, begitupun juga aku, tapi kalianlah yang akan amat sangat rugi sekali.

“Kenapa kayaknya rugi banget ya?”

Tentu saja. Karena perhiasan berharga kalian yang seharusnya dijaga dan ditutupi dari ‘mata siapa saja’ tidak lagi seberharga itu karena kalian yang membiarkannya menjadi murah. Kedua, karena setiap inci dari aurat kalian yang terlihat setiap hari oleh ‘yang bukan makhramnya’ akan menjadi dosa untuk kalian sendiri. Tidak terhitung banyaknya berapa dari ‘yang bukan makhramnya’ melihat setiap inci dari aurat kalian yang terbuka setiap harinya saat kalian mulai melangkah dari pintu rumah. Sayangnya dosa memang tidak terasa atau sakit sedikitpun jika kita masih tinggal di bumi.

“Tapi kan rambut aku bagus”

Alhamdulillah rambut aku juga bagus, tapi lebih bagus lagi untuk tidak diperlihatkan. Coba  kalian renungkan, orang-orang yang menikmati keindahan aurat kalian di luar sana itu tidak akan menanggung dosa kalian, justru mereka yang akan membuat dosa untuk kalian karena kalian membiarkan mereka melihatnya.

Lagipula untuk apa tebar pesona di depan laki-laki? Memangnya apa yang kalian harapkan dari laki-laki yang tertarik dengan kalian karena aurat kalian terlihat? Jika kalian mengharapkan laki-laki terbaik dari yang paling baik, mereka justru akan lebih memilih wanita yang menjaga auratnya.

“Aku maunya kalo udah nikah aja deh”

Itu urusanmu, tapi hukumnya dosa pasti ditanggang pendosanya, dan jika kalian memang cerdas dan berpikir dewasa, pasti kalian tidak akan ingin menghabiskan waktu selama itu untuk membuat dosa, waktu sangat berharga bukan?

Lagipula untuk apa melakukan ‘amal yang melelahkan’ terlalu lama? Maksudku, percuma saja bukan kalian sholat lima waktu menghasilkan pahala, tetapi pahalanya digunakan untuk membayar dosa kalian mengumbar aurat, begitu saja seterusnya, belum lagi jika amal ibadah kalian tidak diterima, yang ada kalian hanya membuat dosa semakin bertambah.

Kita tidak pernah tau bukan apakah amal kita diterima atau tidak? Sedangkan dunia kehidupan di bumi tidak ada yang pernah tau kapan tepatnya akan berakhir. So, it’s your choice.

“Tapi aku belum dapet hidayah nih”

Jujur, sebenarnya aku tidak merasa hidayah itu seperti mimpi atau pencerahan yang tiba-tiba saja datang ke dalam hati manusia. Tapi bagi aku hidayah itu adalah niat yang kapanpun kalian ciptakan sendiri. Jadi jika kalian sudah mulai memutuskan untuk menggunakan hijab mulai esok hari, maka saat itulah hidayah itu datang. Singkatnya, hidayah itu ada di tangan kalian sendiri.

“Gimana sih cara mempertahankan iman supaya gak lepas hijab?”

Aku selalu berpikir kalo tujuan kehidupan di bumi sebenarnya untuk kehidupan setelah kematian. Jadi Allah menciptakan kita untuk hidup di bumi semata-mata untuk mengumpulkan pahala agar bisa menutupi dosa yang pernah kita perbuat dengan sengaja atau tidaknya, sehingga kita bisa masuk surga di kehidupan abadi nantinya (aamiin).

Lagipula memangnya apa kalian tidak malu bisa membuka-tutup hijab begitu mudahnya? Teruslah ingat tentang apa yang membuat kalian memutuskan untuk berhijab and keep in mind jika bahan bakar neraka adalah manusia. Just fyi, aku bukan berasal dari keluarga yang religius, jadi tidak ada pengaruh keluarga bagi aku untuk memutuskan berhijrah.

Sekian dariku dan terima kasih, kurang lebihnya mohon dimaafkan, aku berharap apa yang sudah aku tulis di topik kali ini bisa membuat dampak yang positif atau bahkan melahirkan hidayah di setiap hati kalian para muslimah yang kemudian memilih berhijrah untuk mulai menggunakan hijabnya. Silahkan tinggalkan saran, permintaan, maupun pertanyaan di kolom komentar tentang apa saja karena aku akan sangat menghargai itu ;)

Salam hangat,

Nurul May Apriyani

Friends and Careers

Hello readers! This time I’ll tell you about my friends and my careers from childhood until early adulthood, so this is a really really long story. I write this because I just want to keep this story still alive in my memory, and I suggest you better don’t read it if you don’t really want to know :D

Childhood

I started school since I was five years old, at that time I started my education at As-Syifa Kindergarten, I went there with my close friend at that time, her name is Zahra, I don't remember since when I knew her, maybe since in place of recitation of Qur'an because it's my first place in studying, and from there I also knew my another childhood friend, her name is Aulia, but she wasn't in the same Kindergarten with me and Zahra. Although, our parents were close and their family also very kind to me.

Besides that, I also had playmates around my house, their name are Divi and Wilda, I met them like everyday and played everyday. Three of us had known to each other since we were three years old, so no wonder if we were so close. And if we had got along all day long, we will also eat together or even take a bath together.

I went to Kindergarten just for one year, after graduated from there, my parents and Zahra's parents chose the same elementary school, that is Petukangan Utara 09 Pagi Jakarta Elementary School, and my friend named Aulia also went to school there.

A few years later, the relationship between my mom and Zahra's mother become not good, and so does the realtionship between me and Zahra. She also changed school because she and her parents had to move house. I didn't know what the reason was, but what made Zahra's mother avoided my mom was because my mom couldn't lend her money at that time. And after they moved, I haven't met Zahra again until now.

Since me and my parents moved our house when I was still in grade four elementary school, my relationship with Divi and Wilda become not as close as it should be, I sometimes miss them until now, but not long after I moved, Wilda and her family also moved their house. And until now, Divi and her family still stay in the same house, her family is the only one who has their own house between me and Wilda. And since Wilda and her family moved their house, I've never met her again until now.

I had new friends around my new house, but my relationship with them not as close as my relationship with Divi and Wilda because the amount of my new friends were quite a lot so I was less willing to get along with them. I indeed prefered alone with myself than played with all of them.

I stayed there not too long, only a few years, me and my family moved our house again, but not too far with the previous one. In here, I also got new friends, but it didn't last long since one of my new friends here moved her house. And now, I really have no friends at all, I often just spend my holiday or weekend in my room doing my homeworks, watching movies, making artworks, reading books, or playing games all alone.

I don't really like my elementary school period, but from there, I found two of my best friend, their name are Salsa and Ulfa. My relationship with them while still in elementary school wasn’t really close, but precisely after graduated, three of us become closer. Me and Salsa were lucky because we went to the same junior high school, however three of us still came together in school holiday. But since graduated from elementaty school, my relationship with Aulia become not as close as before because we seldom to meet to each other again.

Adolescene

I studied at 267 Jakarta Junior High School. I didn't really like the situation at the beginning of the school because at that time I didn't like to be around by strangers. The new prospective students from my elementary school were quite a lot, but only two of them who stayed in the same class with me, and neither of them stayed in the same class with me in elementary school so I didn't really knew them. And although me and Salsa were in the same junior high school, but two of us never stayed in the same class until we graduated.

And one day, Divi moved to the same junior high school with me, we never were in the same class and our relationship wasn't like what it should be, maybe we just didn't know how to be close after a long time we hadn't talked to each other. But I wish we're still best friends until now.

After graduated, I prefered to choose vocational high school than senior high school although my GPA was high enough at that time. I chose vocational high school so that I can be more flexible to determine whether I will go to college or start to work after graduated because I didn't think that my parents could send me to college at that time.

I studied at 6 Jakarta Vocational High School majoring Accountancy because my height was just too cute for majoring Hotel Management or Office Administration. Actually now I regret it because I think Multimedia or Animation are more suitable with me. But it's okay, if it's meant to be, it will be isn't it?

This time, in vocational high school I just had one friend that went to the same junior high school with me, but she was majoring multimedia and we never been in the same class while in junior high school though, so I had no familiar friends at all in my class.

Do you know what? To become the only child in a family is kind of a burden for me because I'm the only one their hope to change the family economy become much better. Although I always pretend that I don't care about it, but I actually really care. I just don't want them to put much hope on me which might cause disappointment for them later. Because I will really feel disappointed if I let everyone disappointed about my ability. It feels like it hurts me more than it hurts everyone else.

After graduated, I just stayed in my room doing things that I usually do in holiday or weekend, such as watching movies, making artworks, reading books, or playing games all alone. I was about to start working at that time but my mom said that she want me to just stayed at home while waiting for the college class in September.

Early Adulthood

Now I'm studying at Polytechnic LP3I Jakarta which is not too far from my vocational high school. I was about to take a test for SBMPTN or STAN, I also had already bought these Wangsit books and STAN preparation. But just like what I said, if it's meant to be, it will be. Than just a day was enough to change my mind to chose where I belonged to.

Do you wonder why? Because since I had visited that college, I've learned that university is academic education which same as senior high school. So they wouldn't teach us to ready to work and perhaps that's why alumnus from either university or senior high school are quite hard to adapt in a working world. While either Polytechnic or vocational high school teach us to ready to work so they will ease us to adapt in a working world.

Other than that, Polytechnics of LP3I will give us job guarantee and their system makes us have work experience before graduated, so I think they are the right place for me to get a job properly.

At this time, I majoring Office Administration because it's the only one major that suitable with me, since I felt that Accountancy isn't the right major for me. And in here, I just have two friends that went to the same vocational high school with me but it doesn't matter anymore because I've become more sociable now, and absolutely would be glad to have new friends.

And finally, the story is over, now I wonder how many people who stay to keep reading until here :D. Thank you so much whoever you are, and sure you can leave your opinion, suggestion, request or even question whatever they are because I’ll really appreciate it! ;)

Author,

Nurul May Apriyani